A Guide for the Romantic Man
1) Calling all Romantic men: Take the Romantic’s Hippocratic Oath: Do Her No Harm.
When it comes to love and giving of her body and emotions, a woman is ethical by nature. Yes, she can be corrupted by capitalism, materialism, and “title/status” ambition. But, generally, when she’s convinced and truly feels that he’s willing to love fairly and genuinely, she’s equally willing. Even more. It’s her nature. Remember: Do no harm.
2) Establish a mutually agreed-upon theme to your relationship with the woman when you come together.
When President Obama met Lady Michelle, more than the fact he was smitten with her many intellectual and personality attributes, her family infrastructure (dad loved mom and kids, mom loved dad and kids, and both committed to raising the best family they knew how), he admired the “love” evident at the soul of her family–something he hadn’t had growing up and was quietly longing for. They committed to carry on that infrastructure, that legacy, that love both for themselves and, even more, for their girls.
What’s your relational theme? “Let’s grow together”; “Let’s support and nurture our individual artistic dreams”; “Let’s raise a strong family together”; “Let’s start and build a business together for the future of our kids”; “I’m a writer–will you be my editor?–we’ll both enjoy the fruits of our joint labor”; “Let’s alternate Pamper-Her-Fridays/Pamper-Him-Fridays throughout our journey together, because we appreciate one another and won’t forget . . . .
Gotta have a theme.
3) Ever play charades with family members or friends? Slip a topic card of your own creation in the game and pantomime how you feel about a certain woman among the guessers. Once someone figures out: “I love ___________ . . . ,” watch how the room “ahhs” with emotional surprise. (She won’t forget it.)
4) Get up a little extra early, make her breakfast–presented photo-worthy at the table–kiss her forehead, apologize that you can’t join her because you’re going in early so you can leave work a little earlier. Among her breakfast items, leave a still-corked bottle of wine or cognac (her fave) with a note attached: “We’re going to enjoy this tonight for ‘Part 2’–would you like to have dinner with me?”
Even though you’ve been together awhile, make her feel as if you’re still “dating.” A woman’s heart never loses its ability to “flutter,” regardless of time’s passage. She will anticipate. (Trust me.)
5) Take a photo of her (she has no idea) or a photo of you both and have an artist do a sketch rendering of the image; save it on a flash drive, and then upload it to her e-tablet as the screen saver. Or text it to her out of the blue, with the caption: “Recognize this woman? She was voted by People magazine the most beautiful woman in the world . . . but I knew it all along.” (Note: a “smile” response and “never-forget” gleam is guaranteed.)
6) (This is crazy but I love this one): You’re having a disagreement–an argument–at home and it gets pretty escalated. Right at its height, stop, put her in the car and take her to the library (yes, right then and there) and then invite her to continue the argu-, er, conversation. Watch how silly you both are trying to mute the tone and volume in respect of library etiquette. Notice the first to break out in laughter. And realize how much you truly care about one another.
7) While at the library, check out the movie “Dan: In Real Life,” starring Steve Carell. And watch it together–even if you’re not a Steve Carell enthusiast. Then come a little closer.
8) By candlelight and her favorite male crooner on vocals on speaker, preferably on a Pamper-Her-Friday evening, take a whipped-cream can and spraywrite your name along her thighs, taking your methodical time to consume each letter as if you have all night. Because you do. And that’s how she wants it. All night.
(Don’t forget the toes.)
9) On a whim, out of the blue, call her and ask, “Do you care about me, woman?”
If she answers yes without hesitation, she’s in love.
If she says no, she’s fibbing.
The woman’s in love.
Pamper the woman and eternal is her love. -Rg2
© 2012 Pamper-Her-Friday by Rg2®